Having heard my project speech no 5, hope by this time all toastmasters should be aware of my basic traits, isn’t it? I am delivering this speech with all due respect to all madam toastmasters present here.
Toastmaster of the day, Mr President, fellow toastmasters and guests, a warm good evening to you all.
I was one of those unfortunate souls, who were not able to love a girl and get married, the same girl or someone else. Mine was an arranged marriage. My father who was also a sales person like me, but he was more successful than me, used all his skills and tricks finally got a girl for me.
I had 3 months between the engagement and the marriage and during those romancing days I told my would-be wife that I will take her out to a nice, calm place for an outing. I took her to the graveyard; you see generally it is always calm and quite. My would-be wife was highly disappointed and shouted at me for what and why I have taken her there? I told her “hey, what’s your problem, people are dying to come here “
Literally irritated she called my father and asked him to cancel the wedding. Then my father called both of us, myself and my would-be wife for a counseling session and advised me “Son, remember life is all about give and take”, and then I found out that it is always that we give and they take.
Remember friends, life is all about priorities and everyone has the right to choose their ways. To have a successful and happy married life, remember she goes her way and you go her way. It is simple.
Now let me give you some simple tips to keep your wife happy so that you can retain the music in your personal life.
Never try to outshine the mistress. This is the most important lesson you have to learn. Given all said and done, people will be delighted to note that they are intelligent, so give your partner that sense of accomplishment. Anyhow the male is kind is always dump and there is nothing wrong in accepting it too.
On a daily basis, tell your wife that she is beautiful, charming, intelligent, caring and never forget to tell her that you love her. Generally, ladies tend to have this doubt, so we need to clarify it often. Anyhow we have been doing this kind of ego massage to our superiors and it is nothing wrong to practice it in the house also.
The next trick is sharing of decision making, who has the final say in things. Together me and my wife clearly share the responsibilities. I decide what US should do to come out of the current financial crisis, what India has to do to curtail corruption – big things like that. My wife decides on which school my daughters has to go, which dress they need to buy for this Diwali, what household appliance we need to by, small things like that.
Never be angry at the same time. Because when you are angry, you lose your mental balance. You have two choices, fight with your wife and get defeated or accept your defeat and never go for a fight. Choice is your gentlemen.
Remember, your wife is like a computer, can do multi tasking at a time, highly useful without whom you will find it very difficult to do your routine things, highly dependable but even your smallest mistakes are immediately committed to their memory for any future reference. So better be careful.
Simple all it seems maybe, but please remember only practice makes perfection. When I talk of perfection, I remained of an incident. Hope all you should know about the music academy in Chennai, where all south Indian top maestros use to present their concerts, dance etc. One day I asked an auto driver in Chennai “how could I make it to the music academy?” The driver immediately replied “practice, practice, practice”
But let me advice you with all this practice, never have over confidence in handling your wife. Confidence is fine, but over confidence is not. One of my friend who was doing his final year graduation mastering on agriculture, visited a farm for a field trip. After carefully studying the practice in the farm he told the old farmer “I will be highly astonished if you can able to get a yield of at least ten apples from this tree with the kind of your practice”. The farmer replied “yes sir, even I will be, because it is a mango tree”. So be more careful with your activities.
Look out, life is all about priorities. Look at the great country UAE; you have a media city, festival city, internet city and a knowledge village. I suggest you to set your priorities right.
So friends practice this tit bits and enjoy a happy married life and you can proudly proclaim “I am the head of the family and I have my wife’s permission to say so”
Over to you Toastmaster!